Online Dating Tips Self-Conscious People
Everyone is self-conscious at least occasionally, and it doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to make a lasting connection on a dating website – but it does mean that you’ll need to spend a little time and effort trying to help yourself feel more comfortable with the prospect of meeting someone new. We’ve put together a little advice that we hope will help you to do just that, particularly in the lead-up to a first date with someone you’ve met online.
Looking Good Is A Great Confidence Booster
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and everyone has their own ideas about what they do and don’t find attractive. Qualities of yours that bother you – be they your body shape, your height, your facial features or anything else – could well be actively attractive to someone else, and with a little effort you’re bound to find someone who finds you attractive and compelling.
That said, it’s still important to make an effort. When you feel like you look good, you actually look better for it – it’s as psychological as it is anything else. Confidence in your own body is sometimes far more attractive than anything about the body itself. Make sure you put some time and effort into looking good before a date, and carry yourself with all the confidence you can muster while you’re on it. ‘Fake it till you make it’ genuinely does work here – pretending to be confident will actually make you feel more confident.
Maintain Honesty And Integrity
It’s all too common for people to post out of date photographs, fudge their details or imply that they’re something they aren’t in order to attract potential dates. Remember, though, that this is a short-term strategy – once you’re actually on the date there’s no way you can hide it. They’ll think less of you for lying, and either they won’t be attracted to you in real life or they would have been if you hadn’t attempted to mislead them – and neither of those are people you want to be dating, right?
Make sure you stay honest when you’re building your profile and choosing your images. Sure, you want to come across well – but you also want to make sure that people know what to expect when they actually meet up with you. It’s the only way you’ll be able to build a real, lasting relationship with someone new, after all.
Remember That Personality Is Everything
At the end of the day, who you are matters a great deal more than what you look like – and if you’re fun to be around, entertaining to talk to and friendly to get to know people will find you more attractive no matter what you look like. Remember this, and put your best foot forward.